What does it mean to live an intentional life? While the lifestyles of those who adopt this practice can appear quite different on the surface, underneath they are connected by the same motivation: to live a life that is aligned with their values and beliefs. Living a life of intention is a choice; it’s a choice to make decisions in accordance with to your fundamental values and beliefs. It’s not about what you’ve done in the past, nor is it about knowing exactly how to shape your future--it’s about the decisions you make right now. In the story of an intentional life, the what, where, when, and how of it are all determined by one simple yet profound question: why?

Popularized by author Simon Sinek’s 2009 TEDTalk, How Great Leaders Inspire Action explains what he calls “the world’s simplest idea,” which he calls The Golden Circle.

At the center of the circle is “why.” Why do you do what you do? Just outside “why” is“how.” How do you do it? And on the outer rim of the circle is “what.” What do you do? Most organizations, says Sinek, think act and communicate from the outside of the circle and move their way in: This is what we do, this is how we do it. Leaders and organizations who inspire, he posits, think, act, and communicate from the inside and move their way out: this is why we do what we do, this is how we do it, and this is what it is.

The conclusion he draws is that, to inspire, you have to start with why. When you live an intentional life your why is your compass. Within your why are your values--the things that are most important to you and which drive you. By building a life around your values and beliefs, you create a world in which you know what is driving your actions. There’s no escaping the ups and downs that come with our world, even when you choose your actions intentionally. With your values serving as your North Star, however, you can find meaning in all of life’s mountains and molehills.

Values can shift, change, and grow deeper throughout your lifetime, so living an intentional life is a process. It begins with taking an honest assessment of your beliefs and values, and identifying those which are most important to you.

After you’ve identified your core values, you can begin to take stock of how your current life aligns with them, and look at the changes you may want or need to make in order to return to the path you’ve chosen.

Imagine ten imaginary points on each spoke of the wheel. Starting at the center of the wheel (numbered 0) and working your way out to the outer circle (10) plot a point in each section that represents your satisfaction with each area of your life.

Next, draw a line across each section that corresponds with its plotted point. The new perimeter represents your “Wheel of Life” and can show you where you are lacking the desired balance.

Often when we are feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or directionless, we look outside of ourselves to bring about change. The trouble with this sort of externalized focus, of course, is that our external world is not entirely within our control. The results of this approach generally turn out to be little more than a bandage that masks what really ailsus. Using the Wheel of Life, we are called to look at where we are focusing our energy. To create the balance we seek, we need to refocus our energy on the things that we value, rather than looking for someone or something else to bring it about. Balance is personal and unique to each individual--what feels satisfying and balanced to one person can feel stressful or boring to another. There is no “perfect” result when completing the Wheel of Life, it simply reflects your current reality and helps you assess where your actions are not aligned with your values. Balance must also be assessed over time, and should include regular check-ins so you can identify the patterns that are (as well as those that are not) serving you. You'll notice that you require a different kind of balance at different stages in your life. When you are saving to buy a new home, for example, you may place higher value on your finance and career sectors than you would at other stages of life. With your Wheel of Life showing you where you’re living out of balance with your values, you have the insight you need to set goals that will have a meaningful impact on your life.

What does it mean to have a specific goal? When you make your goals specific, you are identifying the result you want to achieve and clearly stating what achieving your goal will look like. Imagine you’re standing in the middle of the field. You’re handed a bow and arrow and told to shoot at the target. You look out into the field, expecting to see a target, and instead you see nothing but the grass and sky. You know the target is out there somewhere, so you start shooting arrows in every direction, hoping at least one will hit its mark. This is what it’s like when you try to achieve a goal that isn’t specific. Now start back at the beginning. You’re handed a bow and arrow and told to shoot at the target. First, however, the target is described to you, so you know you’re looking for a bullseye. Then, you’re given archery lessons. A helpful coach reviews the basics with you, and then provides you with personalized feedback after each attempt so you can improve with every shot.. Now you not only know what you’re aiming for, but you have the skills to increase your accuracy with each new attempt. This second scenario demonstrates the value of having a specific goal. With a specific goal, you have the skills and knowledge you need to hit the target. Instead of shooting arrows blindly into a field, you can take aim at precisely what you want and feel confident that you’ll attain it.“I want to write a novel,” is not specific. What kind of novel do you want to write? How long will it be? Does your goal include revising your novel, or merely writing it? After answering these questions, your new goal would be restated as, “I want to complete writing the first draft of a literary fiction novel that is at least 70,000 words.”By setting specific goals, you are giving yourself time to review your choices and ensure they are in line with your values and intentions. This clarity also helps to ensure that you have the skills and tools that you need to achieve them.

Specific = I want to write the first draft of a literary fiction novel.

Making your goals measurable gives you a way to track your progress. When measuring your progress, it’s important to track things that are in your control. This means that your measurement should be something that you are responsible for doing, and which does not rely on anything other than your efforts. Using the example above of writing a novel, you might measure your progress by the time you spend writing every day, or the number of words or pages you complete each day. Both of these measurements are driven solely by your actions. Measuring your actions in this way also gives you the opportunity to reassess your goals at regular intervals. If you’re not seeing measurable progress, it can serve as a sign that you need to revisit one or more parts of your goal.

Specific + Measurable = I want to write the first draft of a literary fiction novel that is at least 70,000 words. I will make progress towards my goal by writing every day, and will track the number of hours I have written in my goal planner.

The actions you identify and commit to taking should directly relate to your goal and, as discussed above, they should be measurable. By assigning actions to your goal, you are drawing the map that will get you from your why to your what by answering the question: how? How shifts you from planning into doing. There may be a complete list of separate actions you’ll need to take between starting and achieving your goal, and you may need to add to this list as you encounter obstacles or learn new information. Action is about more than just attaining results, it’s about ongoing learning. If an action isn't moving you toward your goal, you don't need to follow it blindly. Treat your goals flexibly: if you find that you don’t have the necessary resources to complete an action on your list, you can add tasks that will keep you on the path to success.

Specific + Measurable + Achievable= I want to write the first draft of a literary fiction novel that is at least 70,000 words. I will make progress towards my goal by writing for least one hour every day, and will track these hours in my goal planner. I will re-assess my progress once a week to identify any obstacles or course corrections that are needed, and update my master goal plan as necessary.

The R in SMART stands for Relevant. This step ties your goal to your why, and applies both to your actions and to your goals themselves. Relevant actions are those from which you can draw a clear line to your desired end result. For example, writing every day will lead to a completed novel. Relevant goals are those which align with your deeply held values and beliefs. Writing a novel may be tied to your value of creativity, for example. If the link between your goal and your beliefs isn’t immediately apparent, that doesn’t mean it’s not a relevant goal. You can dig deeper into your motivations by asking “the five whys.”

I love to make people laugh and to see the world differently. Storytelling has always allowed me to do so. Why #5: Why do I want to make people laugh and view their world in a different light? Because I value growth and community, and I believe that storytelling and laughter are the best tools I have to foster growth in my community.

Specific + Measurable + Achievable + Relevant = I want to entertain my community while fostering growth and learning, and writing is a skill that allows me to do this. I want to write the first draft of a literary fiction novel that is at least 70,000 words. I will make progress towards my goal by writing for at least one hour every day, and will track these hours in my goal planner. I will re-assess my progress once a week to identify any obstacles or course corrections that are needed, and update my master goal plan as necessary.

By making your goals time-bound, you are giving yourself clear parameters for when you'll achieve it. You can view this as a deadline, but it should also contain milestones along the way so you can celebrate your success. You can choose to assign rewards to each milestone, or merely use them to reflect on the behaviors that have helped as well as any obstacles you have encountered.

Specific + Measurable + Achievable + Relevant + Time-bound = I want to entertain my community while fostering growth and learning, and writing is a skill that allows me to do this. I want to write the first draft of a literary fiction novel of at least 70,000 words by December 31, with milestones set at 17,500 and 35,000 words. I will make progress towards my goal by writing for at least one hour every day. I will track these hours in my goal planner and keep a running word count to ensure I am on track to meet my goal of at least 5833 words per week. I will re-assess my progress once a week to identify any obstacles or course corrections that are needed, and update my master goal plan as necessary.