There are 2 secrets to boosting your self confidence. Where most people fail is they try to THINK their way into confidence, and this is why they never truly achieve self confidence.
You can’t think your way into confidence, knowing how to build confidence really comes down to these 2 things:
Courage and Competence.
Confidence is really just a trust you have in yourself. And the only way to build that trust is through competence built through experience.
Competence means you know what you’re doing, you have real life experience in whatever it is you’re about to do, which turns straight into competence.
The only way to build competence, however, is through experience and action. This is where the hardest part of knowing how to build self confidence comes from, which is courage.
Doing something you’re not competent (and confident) in yet is scary, but it’s the only way on earth you’ll be able to get the experience required to build the competence which then builds your confidence.
This is why building confidence is so hard. It takes a ton of courage, but if you keep doing it, your confidence will permanently increase in all areas of your life.
The secret trick to overarching confidence to all the areas of your life as well, is your trust in yourself to be able to achieve uncomfortable and scary things. The only way to build that is to put yourself in those situations time and time again.
So stop thinking about how to become confident, and how to increase your self confidence. The only way to truly develop permanent lasting self confidence, is through action, courage, competence and experience.